RECONSIDER PURITY TODAY! before it is too late. I sit here and see the lust of our hearts. We are corrupt and we don't know it, or desire not to recognize it or we will be undone.
I say as a single person, "I desire purity!" and strive with all my heart to achieve this goal. But should there ever be a time when this Standard is allowed to lapse? Can I come up with any excuse or "reason" that will acquit me for a time that I might have a fling with the lust of this world. OF COURSE NOT! NOT NOW, NOT WHEN MARRIED, NOT EVER! But sadly I believe that Purity is considered to be something for the single. Can I say that this shouldn't be so. That it may be in fact more necessary for the married couple!
When someone is connected to their husband or wife, becomes one body, one flesh (MARRIAGE). Then chooses to give in to the lust of the flesh(yes this includes what is watched on tv & done behind closed doors, alone or together), they also defile their wife or husband. Their body is not their own because it belong to the other person.
I heard it said the other day, and believe it reflects the thoughts of this world (the church is not excluded), "it's ok for me to look at that because i'm married" & "I know that it's dodge, but its ok because they were married." HOW CAN ONE THING REPULSE ONE BELIEVE (single) AND BE OK FOR ANOTHER (married). MY KING IS NOT A GOD OF DOUBLE STANDARDS. I believe it is true that in marriage every thing is meant to be done with complete respect for the other person. 1 Peter 3:7 says this,
"Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat
them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious
gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers"
It says, be considerate... and treat them with respect.
A marriage is a God ordained thing (brought into being because He wanted it). It is a reflection of what the relationship will be between God and his bride. You may save yourself for marriage, but when married you must act in the way that pleases God. God's marriage will be lived out in Purity and that is his desire for each person's marriage.
My frankness may seem to say that i believe this is an easy issue to resolve or that i have got it sorted. I do not know the struggles of marriage and don't think that it is easy. However, Reconsider Purity!, because God says in Romans 13:13&14,
"Let us behave decently, as in the daytime, not in orgies and drunkenness,
not in sexual immorality and debauchery, not in dissension and
jealousy. Rather, clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ, and do not
think about how to gratify the desires of the sinful nature."
So choose to put to death the lust of the flesh, don't think about how to gratify the desires of the sinful nature, because you know that it is wrong.
I pray that God will help you to bring into His light (as in the daytime) your life, whether married or single, that you might understand God's standard of Purity and ask for His Grace to meet it.